Dear Sean "Mr." McDaniels,
Thank you for writing to me about your situation. As you well know I care a great deal for you and your work. Your position is very important, and unfortunately often under appreciated. It is also good to be in touch old friends. Your smile has lit my own torch many a time and I hope I can help rekindle your smile in this difficult time.
In regards to the letter you received from Theo, I am praying for you both. While it would be easy to highlight the portions of the text that are hurtful to you, you must see that it was written and sent from a wounded individual. Refer to the opening paragraph and you'll see the intent was clearly stated. Where your feelings considered in the rest of the tome? I do not believe they were, but what is more important your feelings or bringing healing and peace?
I am aware the sited evidences that Theo presented were very one sided. And yes, it would have been better had he come to you at the start. Yet could it not be counted as bravery to get it out now? It is at the very least a possibility. Though it was not a considerate representation, at least now the door is open to discussion. Don't make it and argument about what "really happened." This will only lead to' He said, He said' (forgive the blatant vie for a chuckle?) In stead, validate his feelings. It is not right to tell some one how they feel is wrong. How they deal with those feelings is different, and conclusions drawn from said feelings can be inaccurate, but the feelings themselves aren't wrong. I would advise you to let the inaccuracies alone. Truth digs its own way out, we just get in the way.
If your understanding is accurate it will be very difficult to relate to him. Let him know your feelings in all this. You don't want to walk on egg shells every time you talk, so be vulnerable and open. Think of it this way: This is the true beginning. While the hurts were being hidden and not forgiven, you were not truly friends. How could you be with such issues brewing under the surface? Now you at least have a shot, yes?
You should try to talk to Theo and validate his feelings, while staying away from petty disagreements. Should he have no desire to talk to you then let the whole thing go. He may very well be hurt to the point of not beying (sp!) able to be unguarded with you. It is his choice and you should support him either way. If the two of you are able to talk it all out, Great! If not, then the ball is in his court. He took one step and you took another. If he wants to walk away, you have to let him.
